Personal Development

How Leaders Manage


I was surfing the internet a little while ago for vintage video games and came across one of my favorites as a child. The game was called PONG. If you remember the game is set up kind of like tennis or ping pong (hence the name). You control a simple bar considered your paddle on one side of the screen while your opponent has a paddle on the other side. The object is to not let the ball go past your paddle. The more successful you are the larger your paddle becomes. When you make a mistake your paddle decreases in size.

This game is very similar to how personal development works.  When your paddle is small the ball seems to be moving at lightning speed. When your paddle is larger the ball seems to be moving very slowly. In reality the ball speed is always the same.

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If I were the devil 2016

If I were the devil 2016

If I were the devil I’d go back a few hundred years and appear to a man as an angel of light and teach him things about the real god. I’d interlace enough lies with the truth to entangle a great multitude of people. The teachings would be imposed on others by any means necessary, including murder and rape, all the while disguising itself as peaceful.

If I were the devil I’d place in the minds of people of influence that not offending others is more important that speaking the truth no matter the subject. Knowing it will get out of hand political correctness will take root.  I’d sit back and watch PC become a Trojan horse for all types of evil. PC will become more important than safety.  When one speaks out against political correctness they will be labeled as small minded and accused of hate speech. The media will also attack because headlines sell and squashing issues with common sense is bad for business.

If I were the devil I’d label the killing of unborn children as a woman’s choice and have the government sponsor the whole thing.

If I were the devil I’d begin teaching evolution in college campuses so an entire generation of people would deny the Father. Any opposition would be dismissed as uneducated derelicts.

If I were the devil I would make divorce so common that eventually people would stop making the union altogether.

If I were the devil I’d plant the seed that it is unfair to have Christianity in government and everything should be neutral to be fair to other religions. I’d find one letter and take it out of context to justify the separation of church and state, all the while, laughing under my breathe as the morals slip away a little at a time.

If I were the devil I’d read to the end of the bible and panic. Knowing my time is short lived with no hope of escape I’d try simply out of spite to take as many people as possible to destruction with me.

If I were the devil I’d be sad knowing I had it all….. and blew it.


How Leaders Manage

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Good Wednesday


Is Friday the day that Jesus actually died on the cross?

Well lets take think this out. Jesus the Messiah said in Matthew 12:40

“For just as Jonah was three days and three nights in the belly of the great fish, so will the Son of Man be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth.” ESV

This clearly says that Jesus will be in the grave for THREE DAYS and THREE NIGHTS before he is raised back to life. So let’s think about how we traditionally celebrate Easter. We know that Jesus was removed from the cross and hurried to the grave because it was the day of preparation for the upcoming Sabbath the very next day. Luke 23:54

“It was the day of Preparation, and the Sabbath was beginning.” ESV

So we assume Jesus died on Friday because the traditional Sabbath was Saturday or “Sabbath day”.   But if:

  • he died on Friday afternoon
  • in the grave on Saturday
  • and the empty tomb was discovered early Sunday morning before the sun rose

Even if He rose just seconds before Mary arrived at the empty tomb, that’s still only a day and a half.  But how can that be if He said three days and three nights?

Simple. The Sabbath we are thinking about is wrong.  Let me try to explain. During that period of time there were two types of Sabbaths. The first is a weekly Sabbath, the one we traditionally think of, the day of rest. The second is a yearly Sabbath. This is what we today refer to as a Holiday but Jewish people referred to holidays as Sabbaths because they were still holy or High above regular days.  John 19:31

“Since it was the day of Preparation, and so that the bodies would not remain on the cross on the Sabbath (for that Sabbath was a high day), the …” ESV

or if you prefer a different version

“It was the day of preparation, and the Jewish leaders didn’t want the bodies hanging there the next day, which was the Sabbath (and a very special Sabbath, because it was Passover week).”NLT

So this Sabbath was the Passover Holiday celebrated once a year and it was on a Thursday.

So for Jesus to be true to His word (which He is):

  • He died on the cross on Wednesday afternoon
  • Passover was Thursday and he laid in the grave
  • In the grave on Friday
  • Rose from the grave on Saturday afternoon
  • and His empty tomb was discovered before daybreak Sunday morning.

Of course the days really don’t mean much as far as your salvation nor is this meant to cause division. Jesus concurring death for your benefit is the important part.


John 3:16

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”ESV

or as I like to quote it:

For God so loved [enter your name here] that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.


Have a Good Wednesday.


Bad Egg Survival Tactics


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When employee’s jobs are in danger many go into survival mode. No one likes when this happens and it’s an awful feeling but in the grown up world it happens.

Some begin looking for a back up plan and others try to survive.

The two type of survivors are :

The ones who buckle down and work harder. They are the ones who can really make a difference and hang on because they provide a real value to the market place.  These are the ones that are appreciated by their bosses and co-workers. These are the good ones.

The other type of survivor is the one who really doesn’t offer any value. They know if they depend on the quality of their work, their days are numbered and often doomed. So they attempt (and often successfully) to attach a potential problem to their employment ending. These are the ones co-workers and bosses hate. It can stump even experienced leaders and gets everyone at least once.

Some of the things things they pull are:

  • Some type of discrimination
  • Develop a health problem or get sick
  • Report they are being bullied by someone (sometimes even the manager) creating a hostel work environment
  • Develop a disability
  • Have an exaggerated injury
  • Struggle with spiritual issues
  • Develop family problems
  • Report a type of harassment

All of the above are ways to try to gain sympathy and handcuff the leader because if they fire them now, it will shine a bad light on themselves.   For the trickster, just doing the job the right way is never an option because that isn’t in the cards for the bad egg team member. They can’t stand on merit alone.

If they get lose their job anyway, their is always backlash. The bad egg never leaves peacefully.  They do anything from filing a suit to writing a dirty letter to the head of the company trying to paint themselves as a victim and the leader as a tyrant.

The leader has to use common sense and CYR (cover your rear). Document everything and involve the key players in the organization (your boss and human resources). Try to remain stoic and stick to the facts, not your feelings about the facts or your opinion about the person. Those feelings when expressed just make you seem immature and unprofessional.

I’m curious what’s the survival tactic you’ve witnessed?




Fatigue Makes Cowards of Us All

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Anytime I began planning a new venture I’m so excited. I believe the I can do whatever I imagine.  I’m energetic, enthusiastic, and motivated. I really believe I can do it.

By the end of a long day when I’m completely wore out my enthusiasm drops dramatically. I think what’s the use. I’ll just play it safe and not risk anything.

Fatigue makes cowards of us all!

So now I’ve trained myself to dream big in the morning when my battery is full rather than when I’m exhausted and in need of a recharge.

I encourage you to get plenty of rest and  exercise regularly. Heck even get a massage to relieve those tired muscles that carry so much of the day’s built up stress. Because when you are tired goals and dreams seem impossible.


Don’t Shame People

Wall-of-ShameI absolutely hate going to the dentist. Hate it! Not because of the pain or the money or the time I spend. It’s the hygienist I’ve experienced. There I am sitting in the chair with my mouth wide open and they are scrapping away at whatever disgusting debris that is attached itself to the back of my teeth feeling pretty vulnerable. After they finish and I’m ready to leave I receive a light scolding about flossing more and brushing better.

Wow. My head drops. All the self confidence I had when I walked in the door has dissipated and I don’t even want to make eye contact with the receptionist as I leave. I feel about 3 inches tall. And people wonder why dentists visits are hated and avoided for as long as possible. For me it’s nothing more than a shame session.

So how many of us shame our customers in the same manner? Even worse, how many of us shame our people who work for us?  People respond better when they are shown how to improve without being shammed.


When you stick your head in the sand you expose your butt!

How Leaders Manage


Some leaders find certain situations too intimidating to take on. They just want to hide and hope the storm blows over. The truly are waiting for things to just work themselves out by themselves. They pretend that if they ignore the problem, it will go away.

Ignoring dangers and threats is a recipe for disaster and this method never ends well. Can you just imagine a gazelle that sticks his head in the sand with a pack of lions creeping around the perimeter? That gazelle is bound to have his rear end chewed.


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6 Actions You Can Take Every Day to Build Your Self-Confidence

6 Actions You Can Take Every Day to Build Your Self-Confidence

Jacqueline Whitmore


Author, Business Etiquette Expert and Founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach

Office Etiquette

Even the greatest leaders lack self-confidence at certain times. Self-confidence is not a static quality; rather, it’s a mindset that takes effort to maintain when the going gets rough. It must be learned, practiced and mastered just like any other skill. But once you master it, you will be changed for the better.

Here are six effective ways to promote your own self-confidence.

  1. Act the part.

Your body language can instantly demonstrate self-assuredness, or it can scream insecurity. Present yourself in a way that says you are ready to master or take command of any situation. If you look confident and act the part you aspire to reach, you’ll not only feel in control, people will have much more confidence in you as well.

Hold your head high, sit up straight, gently bring your shoulders back to align your spine and look directly at the other person when interacting. Avoid a limp handshake and maintain good eye contact while someone is speaking to you.

  1. Dress the part.

When you look better, you feel better. If you choose clothing and accessories that fit you well, suit your industry and lifestyle, and make you feel good, this will automatically increase your self-esteem. Look like the part you want to play, or in other words, suit up for success. Don’t be afraid to let your personality shine in your accessories. Bold jewelry or a colorful tie can be a focal point and a good conversation starter.

  1. Speak assertively.

The next time you listen to your favorite speaker, be mindful of the way he or she delivers a speech. A great speaker speaks confidently, in a steady, rhythmic tone. Instead of the “ums” and “ahs” that interrupt flow, they use pauses to emphasize ideas.

Adopt an assertive, but not aggressive, way of speaking that indicates your self-confidence. You will feel your self-esteem begin to rise. To be taken seriously, avoid high-pitched, nervous chatter or twittering giggles in your speech. People will listen to you more attentively when they see the leader radiate from within you.

  1. Think and act positively.

Positive energy leads to positive outcomes, so set your mind to the can-do side of any situation, avoiding the negative self-talk that can make you feel less confident. Smile, laugh and surround yourself with happy, positive people. You’ll feel better and the people with whom you work will enjoy your company.

Keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of the high points of your day and your accomplishments. You will develop more peace and confidence when you are in a grateful state of mind.

  1. Take action.

There’s more to being confident than just how you look. You must act the part. Walk up to a stranger at a networking event, or accept a project you’d normally reject. Practice being self-confident and soon it will become second nature.

Inaction breeds doubt and fear, while action breeds confidence and courage. As an exercise, jot down your strengths and weaknesses. Most people will tell you to work on your weaknesses, but use what you’ve got and capitalize on your strengths instead. Once you put more energy into your positive traits, your confidence will start to shine through.

  1. Be prepared.

Remember the five P’s: Prior planning prevents poor performance. The more prepared you are, the more confident you’ll feel about your expertise and competency. Preparation will help you avoid getting tripped up by life’s unexpected glitches.

Learn everything you can about your industry, your subject matter, your goals and what drives you towards success. Before you start a task, first imagine how you want to feel once you’ve completed it. Don’t try to accomplish too much at once. Break complex tasks up into small, bite-size, manageable pieces.

As U.S. Army General Creighton Williams Abrams Jr. once said, “When eating an elephant take one bite at a time.” If you have patience and perseverance, you are only steps away from a more confident you.


A Cherokee Legend of Two Wolves

How Leaders Manage


An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Today, more than ever, you have a multitude of negativity competing for your attention; television showing commercials of how you can’t be happy without their newest products, news media telling about the…

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