Many, if not all, people in the work place choose to fight on a daily basis in their work place. These fights are hardly ever physical, but are better described as social. People use their words and even more often, use passive aggressive actions as a weapon. Fighting is never healthy in any work place. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to never have to deal with attacks on your character, work activities, or personal habits? These are all forms of power struggles. Workers are lobbying for position that will give them influence because, for the most part, people can’t develop influence on their own merit. In the age and time we live in, we have to be able to defend ourselves. If you don’t, not only will the bully take your lunch money, he will stuff you in a locker after giving you an atomic wedgey!
Arguably the best fighter in the world is Anderson Silva. He is a very skinny Brazilian, who seems to destroy his opponents with little effort. He faces fighters who seem to be larger and stronger and he knocks them out or submits them in every fight with ease. When he strikes his opponent, the hits do way more damage compared to the small amount of force he exerts.
So why is he such a superior fighter? Why is he THAT GOOD?
It’s because he is smarter than his opponents. He doesn’t stand head to head or toe to toe with the other fighter squared up and swing away. Could he win like that? Absolutely he could, but he would also lose just as often, and either way he would absorb punishment and walk away with a black eye.
What makes him a legend in his own time is, he knows how to defend attacks and strike from angles. When someone throws a punch at Silva, he doesn’t just take the shot or cover his head to try blocking it. He drops his back shoulder, steps to the side, defects the trajectory with his back hand. This causes the punch to be extended to where he used to be standing, leaving his opponent vulnerable to an assault of punches, elbows, and knees. To be short, he fights from angles.
I would never recommend workplace social fighting to gain leverage or to become a passive aggressive bully. But there are times you must defend yourself. The next time someone takes a theoretical swing at you, know how to react. Don’t be offended or emotional. That gets you mentally out of your game. Don’t stand toe to toe with that person swinging wildly or you will be labeled as confrontational and the one who can’t work well with others. Drop your back shoulder, deflect the blow and be ready to strike from an angle. If you are at that angle, you will have the option to show mercy to your undisciplined attacker. Knowing how to do defend yourself will give you an incredible feeling of confidence and control.
Hopefully, it will be a one-time event. The kid who can defend a bully’s attacks doesn’t have to hide his lunch money in his sock the rest of the year; nor does he have to worry about his head being stuffed down a toilet. The bully knows you are someone who can do damage to him with little ease, so not only does he leave you alone, he gives you the respect you deserve.
Have you been fighting toe to toe? Be smarter than you opponent.