Wouldn’t it be nice to never have to deal with obnoxious people; those people who are so annoying they seem to literally crawl under your skin?
When I was a little kid I remember a time my father had one of his close friends over. They were out in the front yard talking and I was right in the middle of them. I wanted his visiting friend’s attention desperately. “Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy.”
“Not now son.” he replied as they continued their conversation. “Daddy, Daddy, “Will you put me in the tree? Will you put me in the tree?” I asked as I tugged on his shirt as I simultaneously reached up for the lower tree branch. “Daddy, Daddy.”
He never looked down at me. He reached down grabbed me, lifted me up, put me on a low tree branch and walked off while still talking to his friend. I was left sitting on a tree limb watching them walk away. To say the least, I was being very obnoxious.
You see, the reason I was being so obnoxious was because I wanted his friend to notice how “cool” I was. If he would have acknowledged it my “coolness”, I would have probably done a couple waist high ninja kicks and went away.
Most of the time when people are being obnoxious, the reason is they want you to acknowledge something about them. They will go to extreme lengths and repeat the action until you do. They will get worse and worse; without even realizing how irritating they are. It’s the same reason frogs are so annoying. They can’t hear themselves croak.
Your job as a leader is to figure out what it is those obnoxious people are trying to get you to notice. You see, no one is really obnoxious they just want some kind of acknowledgement. It’s like a person who walks around holding up a trophy they’ve just won waiting on someone to comment on it. Here are some examples:
The one upper: “I’m important.”
The know it all: “I’m smart.”
The gym rat: “I’m more fit than the average person.”
The snob: “I have more money than most.”
The arrogant: “I’m a big deal.”
The has-been: “I used to be a big deal.”
Do you have enough charisma and style to give other people credit for what they crave, so you can remove it as an obstacle and get big work done?