When someone sets a goal to drop thirty pounds, they immediately start thinking of all the things they have to deprive themselves of. No more chocolate ice cream after dinner. No more potato chips when you get home from a long day’s work. No more candy bars between meals or as a mid-day snack, even if it is for a quick energy boost.
Also when someone sets a personal or a business goal to, let’s say write a book, the first thing they start thinking of is what they will have to give up in order to achieve their goal. No more watching their favorite sitcoms at night. No more hanging out with friends at lunch. No more free Saturday mornings to sleep in. There’s too much work to do.
This is an error people make way too often. Instead of focusing on what we have to subtract from our lives to achieve our dreams, we should focus on what we get to “Add-in”. Instead of trying to subtract anything, just add a healthy habit into your routine and the negative thing we need to give up will naturally eliminate itself. If weight is you goal, don’t worry about eliminating the potato chips. Focus on the celery and fruit you get to enjoy and the chips will become less and less important.
They say an apple a day for health. You can still have the piece of cake but…….. only after you’ve had the apple. In most cases after you’ve had the apple the cake doesn’t seem as appetizing because you don’t have any room left.
If writing a book is you goal, you get to add in quiet reflection time that allows you to think, clear you mind, and get the ideas from your head onto paper. You can still catch those re-runs of Everybody Loves Raymond, but only after you have time to think and write. But again let me tell you, once you start you will discover those sitcoms aren’t really that important, especially since you only have so much time in a day and have goals you want to achieve.
Remember to focus on what you are adding-in, not taking away, not for what you will get for achieving your goals, but for WHAT IT WILL MAKE OF YOU TO ACHIEVE THEM.