It’s None of Your Business What Other People Think About You


Imagine this.  You enter a room and there are a few people gathered around listening intently to each other.  Before you get close you hear someone mutter your name. It’s obvious they are talking about you.  As you get closer the conversation slows down to a halt and everyone is looking at you from the corner of their eyes.  What do you do?

Do you ignore them and go about your business like it didn’t happen (and maybe cry in the car)?  Do you approach the group and ask them what they are talking about?  Does it get under your skin enough to confront them on their underhanded gossip?

How you handle it of course is important, but what’s more important is how it affects you the rest of the day.  The majority of people can’t help but let it bother them.  “How dare they talk about me?  I don’t do anything wrong and I’m always helpful to everyone.  What could they be saying and why?  What do they really think about me?”

Well to be completely honest, it’s none of your business what other people think about you!  You have no right to know what goes on in their head.  That’s not your concern.  You may respond, “Well I have a reputation to uphold.”  Well only if what others say is true.  You can defend the truth, but you have no right to know what the guy down the hall thinks about you. It’s not your concern.   Your only concern is being beyond reproach in your actions and not giving anyone any ammo to use against you negatively.   Always do the right thing (even when no one is looking).  If you have clean hands, it doesn’t matter.  Don’t be tempted to get even. Treat them better than they treat you. Why give them the opportunity to affect how you feel?   It will make a better person and it will be something you can wear as a badge of honor.

“Well I’ve actually heard them say corrupt things directed toward me.   Like Les Brown says, “Other people’s opinions do not have to become your reality.”  If someone thinks you’re not good at something, who cares?  What do you believe?  If they think you are a loser, who cares?  That’s none of your business.  What really matters is what you think.  What do you believe?

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57 thoughts on “It’s None of Your Business What Other People Think About You

  1. Jamie says:

    I agree that what I believe about myself matters the most. The only reason I can think of to want to know what others think is to use their perception to help me grow and learn. So, if someone I respect shares their opinion of me I do want to hear (and invite) that.

  2. I believe I am totally awesome! If someone doesn’t share that opinion I’m okay with that as everyone is entitled to their own feelings. I don’t want someone to tell me how to feel and as such, I don’t want to tell anyone else how to feel. We have all come through life to this point and our experiences in life shape how we see the world. Why would I be bothered by them when they have walked a different path than I have and their opinions are different? How boring would the world be if we all believed the same thing? That thought process goes for others opinions of you, too.

    Plus, I’m just really awesome.

  3. Leah Ness says:

    I love the point you made that others’ thoughts are none of my business. You’re absolutely right. I don’t have the right to know what’s in another person’s mind, even if it’s about me. Plus, as Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” It’s actually a very liberating thought that it’s not my business to know what others think of me. That means I can and should stop worrying about it. Thanks!

  4. This is a great blog! Such truth! Thanks for sharing =)

  5. pinwika says:

    I agree. So often how we feel about ourselves is linked to what people think of us….absolutely wrong thing, but sadly many people care more about what others think of them. So often people will just lie too….

  6. Deb says:

    Thank you for this. I needed to read it today more than any other day.

  7. Bar Science says:

    I agree with the message. Sometimes the Idea that what other people believe is their problem is hard to believe. You just have to really work at letting others take their negativity away from your sphere. Just gotta believe in you and keep it moving. Luv the blog!!!

  8. Kerwyn Hodge says:

    You’re absolutely right, Cranston. We have no control over what other people think. They’re entitled to their opinions, even as we are to our opinions. However, if we conduct ourselves favorably, the only thing they’ll have to complain about are the good things we do…and that’s okay (see 1 Peter 2:12 for an interesting take on this). However, negative gossip sometimes borders on slander. While you shouldn’t let such opinions influence how you feel about yourself, some cases warrant appropriate action to nip such negative talk in the bud.

  9. Rajiv says:

    I agree, but this is not very easy. It is like what Gandalf said, “we can only control what we do with the time that has been allotted to us”

  10. I really love this!!!!! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  11. Andy Whitehead says:

    Completely agree that it is ‘none of your business’ what others say about you. Keep on the right track and don’t worry about other peoples jealousy – because that is generally why they are talking about you.

  12. noordinaryjoy61 says:

    I completely agree. The people who have legitimate feedback to give you will tell you to your face. The rest is not worth giving a second thought about.

  13. […] Both statements were unsuccessful in waylaying the younger-me’s self-absorbed obsession with Other People’s opinion. […]

  14. Fantastic post and advice. Thanks for this!

  15. Lucy says:

    I remember when I first heard the expression ‘it’s none of your business what other people think of you’ and it has stayed with me as a way of shutting out that voice that says I’m not good enough in other’s eyes. Thanks for the reminder and for your inspiring words.
    Lucy 🙂

  16. ndesenberg says:

    As a person who grew up in church and no longer attends, I like how you take Biblical concepts (but don’t label them as such) and apply them practically. It makes the phrase “living your faith” seem much more genuine.

  17. Dan says:

    This may be only slightly relevant, but this quote crossed my mind when I read your post: “You’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.” For someone who used to be overly concerned with my reputation and appearance and what others thought of me, this was very freeing. It allows me to be myself, instead of trying to be who I think everyone else thinks I should be.

  18. Great post here. What an important ability to “let go” what other people think because it truly does not matter, that much! Keep bring the value and substance!


  19. Well… this reminds me of the times that I have been guilty of talking about someone and feeling bad about it later, especially since it has happened to me, lots. To some degree I think we can’t help but be concerned what people think of us and we should use that to be a better Christian, person, friend. God Bless You and thank you for your support.

  20. Reblogged this on Getting Real with Melissa – Reigning Hope, LLC and commented:
    Anyone thinking a person is a “loser” in this day and age has a few life lessons yet unlearned. – direct quote – Melissa 🙂

  21. Julxrp says:

    Reblogged this on Julx's Blog and commented:
    In today’s world you often hear such articles about not caring or giving in to negative thinking or caring about what anyone else thinks… We often believe that it is our right to know. But as Cranston says, “It’s None of Your Business.. ”
    This is an awesome reminder…
    Thanks Cranston.

  22. Julxrp says:

    We often believe that it is our right to know what people think about us. Its so true. That’s not our business at all. People are entitled to their opinion, even if its false. What should matter to us is what we think of ourselves and how we treat those around us.
    Thanks Cranston.

  23. Rebecca says:

    Agree and at the same time don’t. Agree we don’t have control over what anyone else thinks and we need to learn to let it role off our back. It is far better to feel good about ourselves and to live a life that reflects integrity.

    On the other hand, I think it IS my business what other people SAY about me. Many a fire has been stared with some small flames, whether they’re true or not. Words hurt. True, I can’t control their words and people can think what they will, but to think it doesn’t matter seems to me to be a little unrealistic.

    Plus, we need to remember that we need to make sure that we are careful with our own words. Very good post. BTW, thanks for the “follow”.

  24. Great article. A great way to look at life in general as it likely that someone is always talking about you. Focusing on those things, other than constructive criticism, will simply be a distraction to us.

  25. jgarrott says:

    Excellent post. What really matters is what God thinks of us!

  26. creationwitness says:

    Good read. I like the Gandhi quote. Very insightful and I have to chime in with jgarrott.

  27. aschlady says:

    This is a great reminder. It can certainly be hard to not let the opinions of others get to you but you’re right, it doesn’t matter what others think and it’s none of my business. Great post!

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  30. this aligns completely with my belief — Your opinion of me is none of my business. My opinion of me is what matters to me.

  31. Rajiv Chopra says:

    This is a tough one! I think you need to know, to pay heed, but not be swayed

  32. John Smith says:

    Reblogged this on THE STRATEGIC LEARNER and commented:
    I like the twist here … we sometimes get caught up in the idea that another person’s thoughts are our concern, especially when they concern us:) …

  33. iasb31 says:

    In Luke the Word says that the truth will eventually surface. Paul teaches in Philippians that we just need to stay blameless. The lies or poor opinions will eventually come out as unfounded. Through the midst of it all if we remain a blameless, loving person, we’ll come out not only a more validated leader, but most importantly a stronger servant of Jesus.

  34. Reblogged this on My Thoughts Exactly and commented:
    I f——g love this! Landing on this post couldn’t have been better especially since I just received a phone call from a close friend at work telling me how the individual I wanted to apologize to just to be the better person in this whole high school drama that’s going on at work is continuing to blab his mouth so make himself feel better about the situation. I wanted to get really angry because it was affecting me considering I know I’m not a b—-h unless you give me a reason to be and usually it takes a lot for me to even reach that point so I’m just fed up with people disrespecting me but you know what? Who cares! Exactly what it says on this post is what matters is what you think and the people who know you know better too 🙂

  35. cherylfoston says:

    “My name is Cheryl and I am addicted to this blog.” LOL! Love it!

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