Imagine this. You enter a room and there are a few people gathered around listening intently to each other. Before you get close you hear someone mutter your name. It’s obvious they are talking about you. As you get closer the conversation slows down to a halt and everyone is looking at you from the corner of their eyes. What do you do?
Do you ignore them and go about your business like it didn’t happen (and maybe cry in the car)? Do you approach the group and ask them what they are talking about? Does it get under your skin enough to confront them on their underhanded gossip?
How you handle it of course is important, but what’s more important is how it affects you the rest of the day. The majority of people can’t help but let it bother them. “How dare they talk about me? I don’t do anything wrong and I’m always helpful to everyone. What could they be saying and why? What do they really think about me?”
Well to be completely honest, it’s none of your business what other people think about you! You have no right to know what goes on in their head. That’s not your concern. You may respond, “Well I have a reputation to uphold.” Well only if what others say is true. You can defend the truth, but you have no right to know what the guy down the hall thinks about you. It’s not your concern. Your only concern is being beyond reproach in your actions and not giving anyone any ammo to use against you negatively. Always do the right thing (even when no one is looking). If you have clean hands, it doesn’t matter. Don’t be tempted to get even. Treat them better than they treat you. Why give them the opportunity to affect how you feel? It will make a better person and it will be something you can wear as a badge of honor.
“Well I’ve actually heard them say corrupt things directed toward me. Like Les Brown says, “Other people’s opinions do not have to become your reality.” If someone thinks you’re not good at something, who cares? What do you believe? If they think you are a loser, who cares? That’s none of your business. What really matters is what you think. What do you believe?
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