The Assertive Personality


Have you ever come across THAT GUY?  That guy who feels free to cross the line of respect anytime he chooses.  That guy who is so seemingly pushy that it’s off-putting.  That guy who reminds you of the sleazy used car salesman with slicked back hair, wears too much cheap cologne, has the gold necklace hiding among his exposed chest hair who works at Honest Bob’s Quality Pre-owned Cars and Tax Service.  That GUY?  Have you ever come across him?


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18 thoughts on “The Assertive Personality

  1. luttrellg says:

    In any position of professionalism it’s important to be able to retain assertiveness without coming across as aggressive.

    As someone eyeballs deep in the automotive industry, (New & Pre-Owned), I gotta chuckle at the used car salesman stereotype tidbit. There are plenty of overly aggressive types in any industry. In my industry, they’re the stereotypical used car salesman. In every other industry, they’re just assholes. Not arguing that these types don’t exist in the auto industry, because that would be a futile argument.

    On the contrary, people who shoot for assertiveness and end up in the range of aggression pollute the entirety of the professional realm. However, being afraid of overshooting into aggression shouldn’t stop anyone from forging the assertiveness required.

    Really digging this article and looking forward to more like it!

    • Being in the sales industry also I definitely understand where you are coming from. I honestly hope you didn’t take any offense to my comments. There are sleazy as well as well polished professional people in every industry. And discerning those who can build value and those who are only interested in their own agenda is definitely an eye opening experience. You sound well spoken and are probably in the top percentage of your industry. I wish you a wonderful day and when you get time check out “Lessons from Paw Paw”.

      • luttrellg says:

        No offense taken at all Cranston! I recognize the all-too-common sleaze present in the history of used car salespeople and it’s a shame, truly.

        Will definitely check out the Lessons!

  2. When I was a teenager that was what I worked on – being assertive and not aggressive. I think I’m much better now! Of course, I wouldn’t be the one to say so… 🙂

  3. witzshared says:

    How did you get that perfect snarl on the dog’s face? Great pic.

  4. hayleyhobson says:

    Good points! Assertiveness is a must in business, but aggressiveness is the quickest way out of business. Thanks for sharing.

  5. tokealiyu says:

    Another good one on the difference between being aggressive and being assertive.


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  6. Reblogged this on Leadership Musings of a Skeptical Positivist and commented:
    Are you aggressive in your interactions with others, or merely just assertive?

  7. Nin Ashmore says:

    A pushy (aggressive) sales person who follows you around trying to sell you something that perhaps is being considered turns my husband off immediately.

    I remember a salelady I loved when I was a teen. She was a soft sell, (assertive) in the clothing store, a delightful woman.

  8. Awh what a sweet dog. Maybe not. I love the article as well! Nice write.

  9. cherylfoston says:

    Sad to say…I think we all know that guy. 🙂 Great post!

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