Personal attacks usually aren’t personal. Hurtful actions aren’t about you no matter how personal, planned, or curt they feel. They normally reveal something about the other person. An insecurity they have that can’t help but bleed through to the surface. When an attack occurs know that the attacker is just trying to protect them self. It may be childish and immature, but it’s simply a defense mechanism designed to protect their ego, reputation, way of life, or avoiding change.
The next time someone attacks you, instead of fighting back, ask yourself “What are they trying to protect?” It may just give you the insight you need to solve the situation and keep you happy. And that’s why they call it “Emotional Intelligence” .
The most mature man I know had people verbally attack him, beat him, mock him, and eventually killed him all because they were trying to protect their own ego and authority. The person understood this concept so well, that as he hung their in excruciating pain and about to die said, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”