People with high levels or character have worked through the process of letting go of their need to be invulnerable. Being vulnerable requires a high level of maturity and trust. Being vulnerable means trusting in the strengths you do have enough to overcome your weaknesses and inefficiencies that you admit. It means trusting the people enough that they won’t be used against you and even if they are, you have the ability to overcome it.
Most people play POLITICS. Politics are when people choose their words and actions based on how they want others to react rather than based on what they really think. You can always feel when politics are being played because you walk away thinking “Yuck, that person is so fake”.
The unwillingness to be vulnerable about weaknesses and mistakes create an absence of trust among the team.
Vulnerability based trust stands in contrast of the normal meaning of trust that says you may “trust” that someone will come through with their assignment because they have a history of doing so but they may be “untrustworthy” when it comes to “unintentionally” bringing up your shortcomings at an inopportune time in order to throw you under the bus.
Vulnerability based trust in difficult because people are naturally competitive and protective of the ego and reputation.
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